Success is focusing the full power of all you are on what you have a burning desire to achieve - WILFERD A. PETERSON.

无限的可能

The Stroop Task is a psychological test of our mental vitality and flexibility. The task takes advantages of our ability to read words more quickly and automatically than we can name colors. If words is printed or displayed in a color different from the color it actually names, we will say that words more readily than we can name the color in which it is displayed.The words themselves have a strong influence over our ability to say the color. The interference between the different information our brain receives causes a problem

As in the study by John Ridley Stroop (1935), there are 2 theories that may explain the Stroop Effect.
1. The speed of processing theory: the interference occurs because words are read faster than colors are named.
2. Selective Attention Theory: The interference occurs because naming colors requires more attention than reading words.

In Cartell’s (1886) work, he explained that words are read very automatically and color requires more attention to be named. The brain would subconsciously recognized words with effort. In other words, reading is an automatic process which cannot be turned off. People would see the meaning of words without much effort and consciousness. On the other hand, naming colors would require much more effort than reading words.

A muz watch movie!!! very meaningful one. good animation. sure comedy. movie about a rat trying to be a chef??? Something new so be sure to watch it.

ok today i am going to share a story of one of my fren. he told me about it few days ago so no name mentioning so that things don get haywire. its an experience for everyone also.

Once upon a wonderful time, this fren of mine who was single got attached to a girl. they were loving. i saw some photo of them also. As a third party they look the sort that will have a long lasting love.

he brought this girl to meet me while i was still working in TAKA. they dine at the resturant and i gave them discount. they were a perfect couple at least to me. the male is handsome and the girl is pretty. Perfect match.

Gradually they stopped coming to the restuarant. i thought they went other places so did not take notice. (anyway food was bad over at the resturant).

the last few days when i met the male counterpart. he told me he had break with the girl already. Reason??? not enough time spent together. simple and short.

from the guy's point its a case of time managment. he explained to me that he is studying and still working fulltime(samewhat like me leh). he needs to meet his clients most of the time even on sat and sun. (he's a supplier) Thus leaving the least time for his girl.

to me he does not manage his time well so the outcome. but there is things i muz say is that there muz have this mutual understanding between the 2 of them.

the guy had put his priority on his work and studies and neglect the lady. the lady complained about not having enough time spent together. this happen most of the time for couples nowdays. there were no mutual understanding btween the 2. 1 does not noe what the other is doing. there are even more worst case where 1 does not even bother to find out what the other is doing. perhaps these was the case of why ppl choose to stay single bah.

it made me wonders if i will experience sthing like that. u may want to consider the slogan from Nike and Addias also. JUZ DO IT n NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE.

Life's full of uncertainties and unpredictabilities who knows..... Will a Miracle arrive in time???

It is a simple task to make things complex, but a complex task to make them simple - MEYER'S LAW

妳是我生命的所有

Impression management is the process through which people try to influence the impressions other people formed of them. It is a goal directed attempt to influence the perceptions of others about a person, object or event by regulating or controlling information in social interaction in conscious or unconscious states.

“Impression management theory states that when any individual appears in the presence of others, the individual will usually establish and maintain an impression that they want to convey in their best interest to the others.” (Goffman, 1959)

The goal of the theory is for one to present themselves the ways in which they would like to be thought of by the individual or group they are interacting with. People strived to create an impression of capability, consistency, morality, and attractiveness because these impressions can enhance their ability to influence others toward meeting their needs or goals. In most instances, impression management is used towards the peers to make the individual to appear in better light, and to improve the perceived image. In a more simple explanation, the individual will adopt different roles according to the situations.

Often when an individual are trying to control impression of himself, as opposed to other people or entities, the activity is called self-presentation. Self-presentation, on the other hand, is often tied with the presentation of oneself through the use of verbal communication and the physical appearance.

In the research by Shrauger and Schoeneman (1979) research, they found out that people do not see themselves as others saw them, but instead saw themselves as they though others saw them.

today's the grand opening of Central at Vivo City. I went to disturb the pple there. a bit of messy for for the bar side. the rest seems quite ok.

things are out of reach. the glasses put too far away from the ice machine. Toaster not with toast preparing section. Plates that are not used often were put on the bar counter limiting spaces. the bottles were also out of position.

New food and drinks on the menu. looks interesting. (may go try some other time bah) though of having lunch there but i think forget it. Services don seem good still. Food were out but no one serves it. everyone was like playing taichi (push here push there). haizzzz..... sad....

went hm around 4 ++ bah. have dinner with mom before going out again to meet OCK n PCK. (Phua Chun Kang??? haha!!! ) .

PCK change a bit. he grew fatter haha. he is coming out of the Police Force n may be starting F&B with some frens.

OCK still studying NUS. Graduating 2008. Now supplying some products to shops.

both of them started on something so where am i now???

Errant assumptions lie at the root of most failures - Alec Mackenzie

人往往要等到失去了才懂得珍稀

Love is the highest form of affiliation and attraction. However, the researchers ignored this area for a long time. Love was always considered as too mysterious to be studied scientifically. Researchers also believed that studying love is an intrusion into personal matters. The scientific study of love started only after 1960s.

Social psychologist, Levinger (1974) defined the stages of love. According to him, as the relationship develops, there is a change in both, the intensity and the range of behavior.

a) Zero contact: this is a stage where two persons are total strangers.

b) Awareness stage: at this stage, they become aware of each other’s presence. However, impressions are formed unilaterally. At this stage if negative impression is formed, repeated exposure makes it more negative. But if the impression formed is positive or neutral, then it becomes positive after frequent exposures.

c) Surface contact: at this stage, there is some interaction and the bilateral impressions are formed.

d) Mutuality: persons are drawn to each other and become good acquaintances.

e) Moderate intersection: at this stage there is some sharing and they become good friends.

f) Major intersection: this is the stage where the persons start experiencing love i.e. deep emotions for each other.

Walster and Walster (1978) attempted to study the concept of love, scientifically. They suggested that there are two types of love:

1) passionate or romantic love

2) companionate love

Passionate or romantic love is defined as a stage of intense absorption in another. The lover experiences an intense psychological arousal. He or she seeks a complete self- fulfillment in this relationship. It is observed that parental interference intensifies this type of love. This effect is called, Romeo Juliet effect. It is momentary but can mature into companionate love. This passionate or romantic love is blind to each other’s shortcomings. It is more self centered thus it can resemble to 'having crush'.

Psychologists, Clyde and Susan Hendrick studied romantic love in more depth. According to them there are 6 basic dimensions of it.

a) Eros: this is a passionate or sexual love.

b) Ludus: this is a coy game playing love.

c) Storge: this encompasses friendship and caring.

d) Pragma: a practical, logical approach to love.

e) Mania: this is dependent or jealous love.

f) Agape: it is self-less, altruistic love.

Companionate love on the other hand is longer lasting. It may be for a lifetime. The couple in love treats each other equally and respectfully. The basic of this love is 'caring'. This love encourages mutual growth. The love is based on understanding each other, caring and sharing. The couple understands each other's shortcomings and accepts them. The foundation of this love is trust.

However, according to the psychologist, Robert Sternberb, there is only one kind of love that lives underneath the diversity of human experiences. His findings are based on statistical analysis of questionnaires applied to hundreds of people. According to him, the aspects of love are:

1) Deep understanding of the other.

2) Sharing of ideas and information.

3) Sharing of deep personal feelings.

4) Reciprocal emotional support to the other.

5) Personal growth through the relation.

6) Helping the other.

7) Reciprocal dependency.

8) Reciprocal affection.

Though various researches have tried to study love, it still remains a mysterious concept as the nature of varies from person to person.

Hibernated today at hm most of the time today. Slept till 3pm then woke up coz too hot to continue liao. (no aircon at hm too poor liao... hehe)

then went into idle mode. totally lost dunno what to do. On the TV for 5 mins or so then off again. tried reading some notes but concentration lasted no more then 10 mins. Surf the web n read some rubbish here n there.

it was not until 5 plus then i start to think properly. Got a bit of the engine to work also. Called Ah Shun n found he alone at bugis doing nothing. (poor thing like me so lonely....) So we meet Vivo City.

Went walk walk n some window shopping then have dinner at Mr Kim's cafe. Went to new Central Resturant that is going to open tomolo. Met all the bosses there. Asked to go back work for them but i said we need to tok about the timing first. Lesson is the priority now. (they will juz call me to tok about it stime)

Happen to walk pass Starhub shop there n saw the last few mins of liverpool vs sunderland. haha they got TVs outside the shop with live matches.

Last goal of the match between the partnership Torres n Veronin. Final score 2-0 to Pool. Pool's becoming a more exciting team this season. Its going to be competing against the 2 super club for all the title this season

The First requisite of sucess is the ability to apply your physical and mental energies to one problem without growing weary - THOMAS EDISON

妳是我生命的所有

Stress is a psychological process, with both physiological and psychological components and consquences. It refers to a challenge to a person's capacity to adapt to inner and outer demands. Stressful experiences typically produce physiological and emotional arousal and elicit cognitive and behaviourial efforts to cope with the stress

The general adaptation syndrome consist of 3 stages: alarm, resistance and exhaustion.

Stress is also a transactional process - a transaction between the individual and the environment, in which the individual perceives that demands of the environment tax or exceed the psychosal resources.

i went for the interview by MOng Kok and i guess its not possible for me to work there.

FullTime schdule is out for me coz i cannot make it on wkend stimes.

Part time is even worst. The start time will be 7pm to 11pm. clashed with my lesson timing so not possible.

Haizz forget about it.

i am somewhat on the verge of fatigue. My day starts 5am and ends at 1plus into the morning from Sun onwards. not sure what i was doing also.

i realised i started toking rubbish. answering with some unimaginery answer. i think when someone is tired he answer rubbish. hahaha :)

Am going down in need of someone to pull me up if not juz pull me along.

Let early education be a sort of amusement; you will then be better able to find out the natural bent - PLATO (346 BC)

我的心以放在妳手中陪妳到永久

Social Psychology is defined as 'an attempt to understand and explain how the thoughts. feelings, and behaviours of indivduals are influenced by the actual, imagined, or implied presence of others'. This is widely accepted and a commonly quoted defination of social psychology.

Social life is characterised by arguments, conflicts and controversy in which individual or group try to change the thoughts, feelings and behaviours of others by persuasion, argument, example, command. propaganda or force. People can be quite aware of the influence and attempts and can form impressions of how affected they and the others are, by the different types of influence.

Social life is also characterised by norms. this is, by attitudinal and behavioural uniformities between people, or 'normative social similarities and difference between people'

Social influence can produce surface compliance with requests, obedience of commands and internalised conformity to group norm. People tend to be more readily influenced by reference group, because theyare psychologically significant for our attitudes and behaviours, then by membership groups, as they are simply groups to which we belong by external criterion.

Compliance as superficial, public and transitory change in behaviour and expressed attitudes in response to requests, coercion or group pressure. Given the right circumstances, we all have the potential to obey commands blindly, even if the consequences of such obedience include harm to others. Obedience is affected by the proximity and legitimacy of authority, by the proximity of the victim, and by the degree of social support for obedience or disobedience.

Group norms are enormously potent sources of confirmity, in that we all tend to yield to the majority. Confirmity can be reduced if the task is unambiguous and we are not under surveillance, although even under these circumstances there is often residual conformity. Lack of unanimity among the majority is particularly effective in reducing conformity.

People may conform in order to feel sure about the objective validity of their perception and opimions, to obtain social approval and avoid social disapproval, or to express or validate their social identity as memeber of specfic group.

Active minorities can sometimes influence majority: this may be the very essence of social change. To be effective, minorities should be consistent but not rigid, should be seen to be making personal sacrifices and acting out of principle, and should be perceived as being part of the ingroup.

Minorities may be effective because, unlike majority infulence, which is based on 'mind-less' compliance, they cause latent cognitve change as a consequence of thought produced by the cognitive challenge posed by the novel minority position.

Haha i am too bored already so juz post up some notes for the coming assignment. formed as a backup also. for ur info there's more to come

Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig.

天使与恶魔的斗争

Dunno where to start. Its one of those unhappening wks in the past. Did nothing except work, school n hm. Nothing more nothing less. Becoming restless. May need some peaks to wake up n lets hope its going to be sthing good n not those kind that will drain me off my energy.

Finally got to recieve an unknown call who was calling me the past days. (the person called n i did not got the chance to pick up). So guess what???

New HK Cafe coming up in Bugis. (Again??!!!) This time its going to be in the name of Mong Kok aka 旺角. For ur info its HQ is from Malaysia not of the one in Singapore. (sama sama name only). dunno for what reason the person calling seemed in need of finding ppl to join them. She tried all means to get me down for the interview. ( ya its a 'she' named Karen so i guessed shld be a female even she don sound like one haha).

tok to me for a long time on the phone. i think its about 20mins or so. (first time i tok to stranger on the phone for so long). Told me that they will be opening 3 Branches in Singapore. (i don get it why she told me that). their flagship will be in Bugis Junction. In need of many full-time n part-time. There will also be people coming over from Malaysia to teach the ones in Singapore.

tried turning her down for the interview coz i got no intention to go for it. but then she start to tok personal to me. asking me my current work time, where i stay, why i take part time n not full time...... blah blah blah. i am still wondering why i told her all about it also. (some complete stranger leh) . Soooooo in order to end the conversation, i told her i will be going for the interview. if not i think she will not stop.

one very long winded women. i am not one who tok much :P

Every great man has become great, every sucessful man has succeeded, in proportion as he has confined his powers to one particular channel - DRISON SWETT MARDEN

我不能答应你所有的一切

Today is my first official day out of the house since last tuesday??. i walk with a limp to my work place. my boss called me up n tell me to go there. nothing was told to why i shld go but for some reason i still go despite limping.

we did some praying there for tomolo the grand opening of the new shop. (finally) but i realised today its the start of the Ghost Month.( ya forget about that)

helpout a bit here n there. nothing much to do since i am still limping n cannot carry heavy load. Loft around till 6 bah. then me n my shifu went to meet ah di.

so down to orchard to repair a nokia phone. then went for dinner. as usual i did not tok much, they do the toking. Ah Di's in for a new job at PS (new hk cafe coming up). According to Ah hong Central Restuarant is in difficulty finding suitable bartenders. As for me i still got some personal problems that are yet to be solved. we chat a while about rubbish then gradully went on to some conversation about brewing tea n coffee. haha we still tok about work... (some workaholic)

i found that stimes things can be difficult from the people u r dealing with then the task itself. the task may be fairly easy but if people u r dealing with make things difficult for u then trouble will start. hope that i can clear my problem asap. :P

We need to know how to be flexible and make changes when it is necessary.

你的笑容在我心中永远都不会抹去

Sorry everyone....

i think i have neglected everyone around me recently. Apologises everyone.

People have feelings, love, thoughs. be it juz some greetings, or juz saying 'hello', there's still someone there who cares n concern about u and remembers u.

Someone out there reminded me that i have been keeping to myself, too engrossed with my own work n happenings that i totally forget about everyone else. i have lose sight of people. care less.

i seemed to forget what i used to tell people. keeping to urself is not sthing bad but probably sharing it will be better. things can get done faster n maybe less stress. get advises, opinions.

communications have come to a stand still. Networking with the outside world is restricting. Coming to a close liao if i still does not wake up.

i will try my very best everyone. i will try to keep everyone in sight.

i cannot make any promise coz a promise is for one to fulfill. i cannot make the promise coz there is the fear of breaking the promise. i find that my ability is very limited. i am in doubt of my ability to cope with the problems.

i cannot promise everything but i will try my very best. haizzz am i doing the right thing???........ i don wan to be forced to do things against my will.

Learning to learn is the key. And if your kids have forgotten how, it's only because their knowlegde of these primal processes has been chased into hiding by you or too much public schooling - HAL ZINA BENNETT (1972)

一个无法用言语表达的心情

Haha!!!!!!! i am backkkkkkkk!!!! i though i will be jailed inside for long but its only for 2 days (on actual count shld be 1.5 days)

everything was chop chop. went to the ward got dripped then dunno what stupid jabs thats to be done every 4hrs making me all so painful. then after some oberservations (dunno what they did) n then the Prof said " Get lost!!! " (hehe juz kidding). the pain was gone swelling still there but the professionals said its normal will subside after some time. Nvmind about that least i am able to 'move' around without pain. ;P

Managed to finish downloading the SIMPSONS and watch it. Funny one. its worth a watch ( i mean 1 watch) juz watch n forget it. it kind of trying to bring the audience to be aware of the environment but i think the effort wasted. everyone will remember the funny part rather then getting the message. All to the last, good funny movie with lots of laughter but effort wasted..

Education... has produced a vast population able to read but unable to distinguish what is worth reading - GEORGE MACAULAY TREVELYAN (1942)

我就要离开熟悉的地方

I will be schduled for maintainace tomolo if things are not getting any better. According to the little technician (doc) if condition of my foot don get any better after 2 days of medication then i will be better to go to the garage (hospital) n loook for the experts.

the experts in the garage will have the right equipments n resources with them as compared. most of the technical specifications n infos are in the garage. the experience n informations they have about me will ensure that i get in best shape asap. but i think its going to a through n through check on this machine with problems. Oil(blood) be taken for inspection i predict. then lubricant(drips) will be applied bah. Additives may be added also. the rest lies unknown. hope that there will be no major overhaul

ya from past experience i shld meet many learning technicians. its rare to get specimen in twenties for their learning so it will cause a bit of chaos. luckily i can get the help of security(nurse) to fend them off.

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.- HENRY DAVID THOREAU (1854)

有没有一个人让妳很想念

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SINGAPORE!!!!!!!!!!!!

its the national day today n its holiday!!!!!!! hehe nothing to be excited about. :P i am still awake at this hour. yes i slept too much during the day thanks to the effect of the medication.

anyway the result of the Xray is out. nothing wrong with the bones in my foot. everything is normal. the pain and swollen foot is caused by inflamation according to the doc. he said it was due to some viro infections. Antibodies n painkillers given. better still MCs given. (haha) the down side, i cannot walk normally for the time being. restricted area of movement (at hm only).

my pair of delicated foot

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

妳偷走了我的灵魂，我的心

Today i wake up to severe pain in my foot. went to the chinese physician for some treatment. seems alrite after but pain got worse after few hours. i cannot even take a step.

Went to see 'Western' doctor. Found that i have slight fever. the doc reco go take Xray cause there may be chances that bones in the foot had crack or what. oh ya the foot was hit by falling chairs.

see what happens after i took Xray bah. i will be stranded for wks.

Use your brain for the thinking about how to do more good for people. If you give, you shall recieve.

本来我就是一个人来，也习惯一格人，但妳给我的笑容与关怀我不能不当做没发生

Sleepless nites for me. i got some problems sleeping for these days. Waking up in the middle of the nites. Dunno for what reasons. Maybe still cannot adapt to no working lifestyle bah. Rotting at hm for the moment bah. don feel like going anywhere. My purpose for going is only for meals bah?? (shld be...)

Was at my Sis home the whole day. My nephew's 1 month old liao!!!!!! very usual things lah a gathering and buffet for all. No mood to take pics. Insomnia leh..

Many were at there. All with familar faces but can't seem to remember their names or what i shld call them by. All i can say is too bad loh.

Few of my relatives were present. Got to tok to them. its like ages since we met loh. the topics of our communication were always the same loh. e.g where you doing now?? what u working as?? still schooling??? the same old questions will always pop up. it sure is very irritating but at least u know they are still doing well and there's someone out there who still cares.

Something to share:

How do you use your free time?

How much of your free time do you spend with your love ones??

How do you spend this time???

THINK!!!!

I KNOW EVERYONE WILL BE AMAZED BY THEIR OWN ANSWER

All the world is a stage, and all the men and women merely players - William Shakespeare

有时候想把自己关起来，因为人与人之间的关系已经变得冷淡

the old Civil Defence Academy in Jurong have opened up recently. its some cool place. Sheng Siong have taken the offices for its supermarket operation. The canteen of the old academy have also been converted to food court under the name of Sheng Siong. Then the parade square and training ground have became the parking lots. ya free parking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The 'Bunk' became the 'Hostel'. Technically speaking its juz the change of name.

in doubt of own's ability recently. it gives the feeling thats not right in some ways. the 瞎忙 feeling is always there. unable to explain.

It is not about making the wrong decision, but having the courage to make a decision.

我尝试着忘记妳，但我想我做不到

people out there have trust me too much.

don put that much trust on me. i am not that trustworthy. i tell lies also. i cannot always keep to my word. don always believe in what i say, i can be decieving at times also.